One of the things I committed to when I founded Kill the Precedent is transparency — not just as a talking point but as a structural value. We are building something whose entire purpose is to hold institutions accountable for the gap between what they claim to do and what they actually do. We cannot do that work while being opaque about our own. So: here is where we are, what we've built, and what is coming next.
I want to be honest about something else too. This organization started in a period of personal crisis. I am navigating a dependency case in real time. I am a neurodivergent parent fighting for my children while simultaneously building the research infrastructure that documents the exact systemic failures being used against me. There were weeks where the work stalled because survival took everything. There were nights I sat down at 2am and built instead of sleeping because building felt like the only thing I could control.
That is the context for what you are about to see. Because what you are about to see — built in that context, from that position — is genuinely substantial. And I think naming the context matters, because one of Kill the Precedent's core arguments is that the people the system most discounts are often the ones doing the most necessary work.
Radical transparency is not a vulnerability. It is the whole point. The system operates on the assumption that people in crisis cannot build anything credible. This progress report is the evidence that the assumption is wrong.
The Numbers at a Glance
37
Site files built and deployed
20
Blog posts — research, analysis, and advocacy
7
Printable training briefs — Vols. 1–7
28
Sourced entries in the foster care to trafficking research database
4
Core site pillars — blog, training, database, reform agenda
Live
killtheprecedent.com — deployed and accessible
What's Built and Live Right Now
The Site Infrastructure
Kill the Precedent launched at killtheprecedent.com — a fully custom HTML site built from the ground up during this period, deployed via Cloudflare Pages with the domain connected through GoDaddy DNS. No templates. No site builder platforms. A real site with a real design language that holds up next to any professional advocacy organization.
Core Pages Live
Home — mission, four pillars, about strip, blog preview, CTA
Mission — full mission statement, pillars, why this matters, philosophy statement
About — founder bio, origin, lived experience as expertise, KTP philosophy statement
Blog — 20 posts indexed and linked
Reform & Accountability — wins documented, 8-point agenda, insurance model, misconduct registry deep dives
Research Database — 28-entry interactive foster care to trafficking database with search and filtering
Resources — curated free training links by category, KTP training briefs library, featured organizations
Phoenix Rising — dedicated organizational page for the cooperative housing project
Let's Kill the Precedent Podcast — coming soon page with story submission forms, co-host announcement, segment structure
Record the Encounter — full guide to recording CPS and law enforcement interactions
The Blog — 20 Posts Published
Research & Policy
When the Brain Is the Hidden Injury — TBI and coercive control, sourced to Harvard/CDC/BIAA
What Is Qualified Immunity — plain language breakdown with real case law
Title IV-E and Family Separation — following the money in foster care
The Numbers the Child Welfare System Doesn't Want You to See — 84% of removals, 28× abuse rate in group homes, 54:1 spending ratio
Medical Autonomy, Forced Vaccination, and the Liability Exemption — the 1986 Act and parental rights
Coercive Control & Abuse Psychology
DARVO: When Abusers Become Victims — Deny, Attack, Reverse Victim and Offender in family court
Reactive Abuse: What You're Seeing Is Not What You Think — the most misread dynamic in coercive control
The Quicksand Model — Kate Amber's D's, E's, F's, and I's framework
The System Doesn't Protect Survivors. It Punishes Them. — 8 documented barriers to leaving, failure to protect, legal abuse
By the Time She Calls, He's Already Been There — preemptive narrative control and law enforcement DV rates
The Calmest Person in the Room — Dark Triad and Machiavellianism in legal systems
Not a Coincidence: Autism, Coercive Control, and the Predictable Outcomes of Chronic Harm — 90% victimization rate, seven documented mechanisms
Neurodivergence & Child Welfare
Neurodivergent Parents in the Child Welfare System — bias, ADA violations, double standards
Autism Symptoms Are Not Neglect — elopement, pica, ICD-10 codes, DSM-5-TR sourced
Practitioner Education
To the Good Ones Still in There — encouragement for practitioners doing the right thing under institutional pressure
Badges Don't Grant Extra Rights — CopBlock, voluntaryism, Pete Eyre, and the through-line to KTP
Featured Organizations & Projects
Voices of Hope: Stronger Together — Empowerment Online, co-parenting tools, Hope Project
I'm Building the Thing Nobody Built for Us — Phoenix Rising blog essay
Let's Kill the Precedent — The Podcast Is Coming — launch announcement with Kristan T. Harris
Progress Report: May 2025, Vol. 1 — this post
The Training Library — 7 Printable Briefs
Each brief is designed to be printed, shared, used in training sessions, submitted in legal proceedings, or handed to a colleague. Every one is free, attributed to killtheprecedent.com, and built from peer-reviewed or federal sources.
Training Briefs — All Free, All Printable
Vol. 1 — When the Brain Is the Hidden Injury — TBI field reference for CPS and law enforcement
Vol. 2 — Reactive Abuse Field Reference — key terms, misread presentations, practitioner checklist
Vol. 3 — The Quicksand Model — complete coercive control framework reference
Vol. 4 — Neurodivergence & Child Welfare — three core competencies, ADA/IDEA/504 obligations
Vol. 5 — Autism Symptoms Are Not Neglect — behavior reference table, legal dimensions, nine-item checklist
Vol. 6 — Dark Triad & Machiavellianism — predatory personality patterns, red flags, practitioner awareness checklist
Vol. 7 — Preemptive Narrative Control — five phases, red flags, practitioner self-check
What This Represents — Honestly
Kill the Precedent started as notes in my head and conversations on a screen. The research was scattered across PDFs, documents, memories, and years of direct experience navigating systems that were supposed to help and didn't. The organizational structure existed as an idea, not an institution.
What is live at killtheprecedent.com today is the first time most of that has been in one place, in a form that anyone can access, cite, print, and use. A civil rights attorney can pull training briefs from this site and put them in a family court filing. A caseworker can print the autism symptoms reference and put it on their desk. A survivor at 3am can find the recording guide and know what app to download before the next CPS visit. A journalist can read the CPS statistics post and have every source cited and ready.
That is not nothing. That is — built from crisis, on no budget, during a period when I had every reason to stop — something real and functional and already in use.
What's Coming Next
Let's Kill the Precedent — Podcast LaunchTargeting launch in approximately one month. Kristan T. Harris of The Rundown Live confirmed as co-host. Submissions open now through the podcast page. First episodes will cover coercive control, family court accountability, and the recording rights guide in audio format.
Episode Structure and First Six EpisodesWorking now on the detailed episode roadmap — topics, guests, segment breakdown, and production timeline. This will be documented and shared as a preview post before launch.
Formspree Integration — Podcast Submission FormsConnecting the story submission and collaboration forms on the podcast page to a real form handler so submissions actually reach the inbox.
Additional Blog PostsSeveral topics already in development: the Machiavellianism blog from the uploaded PDF, a deeper dive on coercive control in institutional settings, and additional featured organization spotlights.
Phoenix Rising Funding DevelopmentGrant applications in development targeting Cal OES, HCD, DOJ, HUD, and California foundations. The Phoenix Rising page on this site is the public-facing component of an active funding strategy.
Regular Progress ReportsThis post is Vol. 1. Progress reports will publish monthly — documenting what is new, what is coming, who has joined the work, and what the numbers look like as the site grows. Transparency is the work, not just a value we claim.
Social and Distribution InfrastructureBuilding out the channels through which this content reaches the people who need it — practitioners, survivors, advocates, journalists, legislators. The site is built. Now it needs to travel.
A Note on How This Was Built
I want to be transparent about the process because it is itself an argument for something Kill the Precedent believes: that people with limited resources, in difficult circumstances, facing institutional opposition, can build things that matter.
Kill the Precedent was built in conversations — between me and the tools available to me, drawing on years of lived experience, research I had been accumulating, and the specific knowledge that comes from being inside the system this site documents. It was built at 2am and during nap times and in the windows between court dates. It was built by someone who is simultaneously the researcher, the founder, the subject, and the advocate.
That is not a weakness of this organization. It is its most important credential. The people who know these systems most intimately are the people who have been most harmed by them. Kill the Precedent is what happens when one of those people decides to stop being quiet and start building something permanent instead.
The precedents being named on this site were set over decades. Killing them will take longer than one month or one year. Progress reports exist because the work deserves to be witnessed — and because the people following this work deserve to know it is real, it is continuing, and it is not going anywhere.
Thank you for being here. Share what is useful. Submit what you know. Tell someone this exists.
— Toni Bones, Founder — Kill the Precedent