I want to tell you something I am genuinely proud of before I ask you for anything.
A year ago I had nothing. Not in the casual way people say that — I mean it literally. No stable housing. No car. No income of my own. No documentation, no credit, no financial infrastructure of any kind. I was starting over from a baseline that most people will never have to imagine, let alone live through. I had my mind, my history, my conviction, and my kids to get back to.
That was it. That was the starting inventory.
What I Built
My Own Home
Stable. Mine. A place my kids can come home to.
My Own Car
Transportation. Independence. Freedom to move.
My Own Income
Earning. Self-sufficient. No one controls the money.
A Published Book
Kill the Precedent — written and published during the hardest year of my life.
killtheprecedent.com
58 pages. 30+ blog posts. 7 training briefs. A research database. All free.
A Podcast Launching
Let's Kill the Precedent — co-hosted with Kristan T. Harris of The Rundown Live.
Credit Score Rebuilt
From nothing. Approaching 700. Documented and rising.
A Community
You. The people reading this. The practitioners, survivors, and advocates who found this site and stayed.
I did all of that while navigating a dependency case, while processing the hardest year of my life, while being a voluntaryist and an agorist who believes in building real things rather than waiting for systems to save anyone. I did it because my kids are coming home and they deserve a mother who did not stop. Who did not break. Who built them something to come home to while she waited.
The house exists. The stability exists. The home exists. What I need now is help filling it — and help getting all the way over the finish line.
What Would Help Right Now
I am asking for help with the gap between where I am and where I need to be. Getting my kids set up properly when they come home. Getting a good civil rights attorney — there are legal matters connected to everything this site documents that require professional representation I cannot afford alone. And being freed up enough financially to pour everything into this work instead of treading water while I do it.
I hate asking. I genuinely hate it. But I would do far worse than this for my kids. They deserve their dream home. They deserve a mother who showed up for herself so she could show up for them. And they deserve a community that showed up for her when it was hard.
Support the GoFundMe
Any amount. Any share. Every single bit of it goes toward getting my children home to the life I have been building for them.
Contribute on GoFundMe →Every Way to Help
Cash App
$killtheprecedentDirect. Immediate. No overhead.
Venmo
@killtheprecedentDirect. Immediate. No overhead.
Physical Mail
PO Box 11Forest Falls, CA 92339
Letters, checks, cards. All welcome.
Gently Used Items
Kids Ages 2–8Books, educational toys, clothing. They are starting fresh and everything helps.
If you donate — any amount — message me at letskilltheprecedent@gmail.com and I will send you a free copy of the Kill the Precedent ebook. The book I wrote during all of this. It is published, it is real, and it is yours as a thank you.
For larger donations — I paint. I would love to send you an original piece. Shipping large canvases is expensive so reach out and we will figure out something that works — a smaller painting, a print, something made by hand. Let's talk.
My daughter Dahlia is 8. If you have a child around her age who would enjoy exchanging real letters in the mail, that would mean everything to her. Reach out at letskilltheprecedent@gmail.com if your family would be open to it.
I came up through the voluntaryist and agorist community and I believe in mutual aid over systems. If you have a skill, a service, something you make or something you know — reach out. Tell me what you have and what you need. Let's figure out how to help each other without a middleman taking a cut of everything.
The reason I am starting from zero — why there are no boxes of our belongings, no children's toys, no clothes saved from before — is post-separation abuse. When I finally left a coercive control situation last year, everything I owned was thrown away. Everything my children owned went with it. I have spent a year trying to recover it. It is not going to happen. We are building new from scratch, which is also exactly why this site exists and why the work matters.
He told me for years that if I ever left, I would never be a mother to my children. He has done everything in his power to keep that promise. Help me prove him wrong.
Thank you for being here. Thank you for everything you have already given to this work by reading it, sharing it, and believing in it. Your support right now is part of how I get my kids home.
— Toni Bones, their mother