I want to tell you something I am genuinely proud of before I ask you for anything.
A year ago I had nothing. Not in the casual way people say that — I mean it literally. No identity documentation. No stable housing. No car. No income of my own. No credit, no bank account, no financial infrastructure of any kind. I was starting over from a baseline most people will never have to imagine, let alone live through. I had my mind, my history, my conviction, and my kids to get back to.
That was the entire starting inventory.
What I Built
My Own Home
Stable. Mine. A place my kids can come home to.
My Own Car
Transportation. Independence. Freedom to move.
My Own Income
Earning. Self-sufficient. Nobody controls the money but me.
Identity Documents
ID, records, a passport. From having literally nothing on paper.
Credit Rebuilt
From zero. Approaching 700 and climbing.
A Published Book
Kill the Precedent — written and published during the hardest year of my life.
killtheprecedent.com
58 pages. 30+ posts. 8 training briefs. A research database. All free to everyone.
A Podcast Launching
Let's Kill the Precedent — co-hosted with Kristan T. Harris of The Rundown Live.
I did all of that while navigating a dependency case. While processing the hardest year of my life. As a voluntaryist and an agorist who believes in building real things rather than waiting for a system to save anyone. I did it because my kids are coming home and they deserve a mother who did not stop.
The house exists. The stability exists. The home exists. What I need help with now is filling it — and getting all the way across the finish line.
What Would Help Right Now
I am asking for help with the gap between where I am and where I need to be. Getting five kids between two and eight years old fully set up when they come home — beds, clothes, books, all of it, from scratch. Getting a good civil rights attorney, because there are legal matters connected to everything this site documents that require professional representation I cannot afford alone. And being stable enough financially to pour everything I have into this work instead of treading water while I do it.
I hate asking. I genuinely hate it. But I would do far worse than this for my kids. They deserve their dream home. They deserve a mother who showed up for herself so she could show up for them. And they deserve to know a whole community showed up when it counted.
Support the GoFundMe
Any amount. Any share. All of it goes toward getting my children home to the life I have spent this year building for them.
Contribute on GoFundMe →Every Way to Help
Cash App
$killtheprecedentDirect. Immediate. No overhead.
Venmo
@killtheprecedentDirect. Immediate. No overhead.
Physical Mail
PO Box 11Forest Falls, CA 92339
Letters, checks, cards. All welcome.
Gently Used Items
Kids Ages 2–8Books, educational toys, clothing. Gently used is perfect. We are rebuilding from zero.
If you donate any amount — message me at letskilltheprecedent@gmail.com and I will send you a free copy of the Kill the Precedent ebook. The book I wrote through all of this. It is published, it is real, and it is the least I can do to say thank you.
For larger donations — I paint. I would love to send you an original piece. Shipping large canvases gets expensive, so reach out and we will work something out together — a smaller painting, a print, something made by hand. Let's talk.
My daughter Dahlia is eight years old. If you have a child around her age who would enjoy exchanging real letters in the mail, that would mean everything to her. She is funny and smart and she deserves good things. Reach out at letskilltheprecedent@gmail.com if your family would be open to it.
I came up through the voluntaryist and agorist community and I still believe in it. If you have a skill, a service, something you make or something you know — reach out. Tell me what you have and what you need. Let's figure out how to help each other without a middleman taking a cut of everything.
The reason there are no boxes of belongings, no children's toys, no clothes saved from before is post-separation abuse. When I left a coercive control situation last year, everything I owned was thrown away — and everything my children owned went with it. I spent a year trying to recover it. It is not going to happen. We are building new from scratch, which is also exactly why this site exists and why the work on it matters.
He told me for years that if I ever left, I would never be a mother to my children. He has done everything in his power to keep that promise. Help me prove him wrong.
Thank you for being here. Thank you for everything you have already given this work by reading it, sharing it, and believing in it. Your support right now is part of how I get my kids home.
— Toni Bones, their mother